Changing The Foot Fetish Stigma Into Something Positive And Awesome!
You really need to ask yourself, if every time you glanced at, gazed down to, leaned toward, intentionally or unintentionally spied out of the corner of your eye, peered into, checked out, or otherwise looked at someone’s feet, and that person “caught” you doing so (notice the use of the word caught here)…
… Do you really want that person to physiologically associate you as a person invading a sacred, personal and intimate place? Especially when it comes to her feet?
Let me put it another way. If you were to “invade” a person’s space in the form of “actual” sexual conduct, you would “actually” be committing a crime.
Now I realize that sounds a bit extreme, but understand, we are talking about a physiological perception here, and the fetish label generally holds a sexual connotation to it, and that connotation carries a perception that many people tend to view as being off limits to all, except those that are authorized for a very imitate relationship.
Now, think for a moment of just how limiting this can be for a person that thinks feet are beautiful!
Of course, I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest that you probably already know just how limiting that can be.
After all, if you’ve ever had a negative experience with anyone that found out you love feet for any reason, you know how debilitating, and how humiliating such a limit inducing experience that is.
It’s essentially the same as being locked up in a symbolic prison.
You could even say it’s almost as condemning as the concept of “Pre-Crime”(Minority Report reference just in case), only, YOU don’t even have a pretty cool sounding name for what you’ve been associated with!
What The Foot Really Is In Relation To Foot Fetish Stigma
WTF! You Might Say! I say WTF as well, as in What The Foot, that is!
The simple truth is, the foot first and foremost, is a body part. It is not a sexual organ. They can however be used in sexual acts just like every other part of the body, but feet are not sexual objects in themselves.
This is a very important, even crucial distinction you will need to develop. Why? Because the term foot fetish has a history of being misused, to your detriment! The result has been at minimum a social stigma that suggests, and often has dictated a taboo-like, or risque perception toward a person who loves feet.
So though foot certain can be viewed in the sexual context, we must still be responsible to strike a responsible balance toward what feet really are first and foremost as a body part, and what how we REALLY view them in our heart, and that’s where perspective is key. If we view the foot in a “sexual” way, chances are very good that is what we will project to others, and they will probably pick up on that vibe…
… if that vibe is what you want to project, then you’re on the right track.
On the other hand. If our intention is to not leave a sexual context impression, or we flat out do not view the foot in a sexual way, but we do allow …
… people (especially women), to connect us and how we feel about feet with a sexually connotative label of any kind, things will probably become much more complex, again, especially with women.
So, If traversing this kind of physiological and physical complexity doesn’t appeal to you, then keep your foot love from the perspective as a body part. That, is going to be your best play here.
No Guarantees With The Foot Fetish Stigma, But A Solid Hope For Success
But even not placing or categorizing the foot in a sexually connotative package doesn’t mean you won’t get an undesirable reaction from some women.
Still, having such a non-sex view of feet will most certainly create a means to confront the negative reaction in a productive way that can bring perspective, and logic, that may diffuse the situation, and may even give you some control and dignity back as well.
After all, wouldn’t it be nice if all women viewed feet in a non-exclusive context? Well, they can, and they do all the time. That is, when sexual context isn’t part of the equation.
There is actually nothing wrong with giving a person a good foot massage, and by foot massage, I don’t mean gently touching, rubbing, or stroking her feet as if they are a delicate puppy, or sucking them like a Popsicle in a vacuum chamber.
A good, therapeutic foot treatment is about giving of yourself to another, being connected with but yet at the same time, contented, to the servitude of her, to HER benefit. You would have to enjoy to act of serving another. It’s an act of humility, a strength of character on your part. It’s quite beautiful actually.
This is an act of foot appreciation that when experienced, is very difficult for a person experiencing it to interpret as in a sexual context.
Now if your goal is to get to the goodies in between her legs, well then, going with the “fetish” label and everything that goes with it will probably be the way to go.
Of course, if you do manage to get to her feet that way, do not by any means be surprised if, and I mean if, she views the two of you as exclusive in almost every way, or in ways you wouldn’t expect to be that big of a deal, but they will definitely be a big deal to her.
So, don’t look at pictures of feet anywhere without risking her feeling you’ve violated some trust of intimacy to her.
Don’t fail to tell her about some aspect of feet that you’re ultimately into, then act on it and be surprised if she, again, feels you’ve violated her trust in you.
Don’t look at other women’s feet and be surprised if she ends up feeling jealous about it.
Don’t take too much of an interest in foot related objects such as shoes, ankle bracelets, toe rings, either hers, someone else’s, or whatever, and be surprised if she feels you are objectifying her in some way.
Any one of these offenses could be grounds for her to feel the need to question the foundation of the entire relationship, no matter how long it has existed.
But Actually, there are so many other labels that can be used to describe how one feels about feet. They can have a love for them. A person can have a passion, or have an interest in feet, you could have a desire to serve and help others in relation to feet, you could have an appreciation for them.
Labels such as these can be coupled with explanations, descriptions, and life stories that, when done properly, can stimulate conversation, and build relationships of mutual respect and trust between people. These are close, intimate relationships with women that you can truly enjoy. The foundation of this being an act of the service of love in caring for her feet.
These can be very rewarding experiences you will carry with you for a lifetime!
But of course, if you really want the fetish label and everything that goes with it, then so be it, I’m not judging this, and I don’t have a problem with it. But I can say, I’ve seen and heard so many that love feet have negative experiences that didn’t need to happen, especially when the intent wasn’t to harm or offend.
So, if labeling yourself as having a foot fetish has caused you more problems with women than you care for, it could be because the fetish context is getting in the way.
Try a conversation that presents feet in a way that can’t be taken sexually, but rather, make your presentation of how you love feet in a way that evokes a positive and empowering experience for her.